Transform the ickiness you perceive in your environment

answer 21 of 21 answers in 21ish days:)  

a combo of 2 questions, both from friends in the US::::::
What are some techniques to deal with the overwhelming emotional burden often felt? Because of all of the emotions I feel and typically do not know where they come from, it becomes very draining. My current coping mechanism is to shutdown and isolate myself. I would really like to know how to better control it to prevent the mental and physical toll it takes.

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What is our 'shadow'?  How doe we romance our shadow?